Post by Kizzume on Oct 18, 2007 8:02:57 GMT -5
I actually think that gay pride marches do more of a disservice to the gay community BECAUSE of the way that people, including media, always focus on the most extreme aspects to them.
One of the things that really bugs me about the marches is how so many people who are marching in them seem to take the attitude that being gay isn't about who you are attracted to, like it's something else completely. I am still in disbelief about getting kicked out of:
1. an Act Up meeting because I suggested that wearing pink tu-tu's and 2 foot high hairpieces isn't the best way to try to tell people that, to quote them, "we're just like everyone else".
2. a gay pride planning meeting for suggesting that instead of bickering about the name because it was accepting of so many different types of people (gay, lesbian, transgendered, blah blah blah parade), why not just call it the sexual openness parade.
Both of them resuled in people chanting the same exact phrase--yes, both times--"You're just a bigot. Bigot! Bigot! Bigot!"
I'll never forget it.
The one thing I DIDN'T say about that anti-gay meeting was that just when we had gotten people to realize that what was on paper wasn't what was coming out of the speaker's mouth, a big group of people barge into the room, wearing outlandish outfits, holding hands together and saying, "You're all just a bunch of bigots. Shame. Shame. Shame" and circled the entire room slowly, saying "shame" over and over again in unison until they finally left the room. They had ruined almost everything my friends and I had worked on at that meeting.
I'll just say that I don't like "gay politics". So much of it is dishonest, and sometimes it's so dishonest that sometimes I'm ashamed to be gay JUST BECAUSE of how dishonest some of the political aspects to it often are. I don't really want to go into the details--I'd prefer to leave it vague, at least at this time.
Pride marches would be great if they were to regulate them to not have outlandish stuff, but then it wouldn't be much of a parade--everyday straight folk watch it simply because it is usually so outrageous.
I still wish that there was simply a sexual openness parade. Let anyone who feels suppressed be as weird as they want to that day.--almost like having a huge mardigras celebration but it doesn't have to be in New Orleans.
One of the things that really bugs me about the marches is how so many people who are marching in them seem to take the attitude that being gay isn't about who you are attracted to, like it's something else completely. I am still in disbelief about getting kicked out of:
1. an Act Up meeting because I suggested that wearing pink tu-tu's and 2 foot high hairpieces isn't the best way to try to tell people that, to quote them, "we're just like everyone else".
2. a gay pride planning meeting for suggesting that instead of bickering about the name because it was accepting of so many different types of people (gay, lesbian, transgendered, blah blah blah parade), why not just call it the sexual openness parade.
Both of them resuled in people chanting the same exact phrase--yes, both times--"You're just a bigot. Bigot! Bigot! Bigot!"
I'll never forget it.
The one thing I DIDN'T say about that anti-gay meeting was that just when we had gotten people to realize that what was on paper wasn't what was coming out of the speaker's mouth, a big group of people barge into the room, wearing outlandish outfits, holding hands together and saying, "You're all just a bunch of bigots. Shame. Shame. Shame" and circled the entire room slowly, saying "shame" over and over again in unison until they finally left the room. They had ruined almost everything my friends and I had worked on at that meeting.
I'll just say that I don't like "gay politics". So much of it is dishonest, and sometimes it's so dishonest that sometimes I'm ashamed to be gay JUST BECAUSE of how dishonest some of the political aspects to it often are. I don't really want to go into the details--I'd prefer to leave it vague, at least at this time.
Pride marches would be great if they were to regulate them to not have outlandish stuff, but then it wouldn't be much of a parade--everyday straight folk watch it simply because it is usually so outrageous.
I still wish that there was simply a sexual openness parade. Let anyone who feels suppressed be as weird as they want to that day.--almost like having a huge mardigras celebration but it doesn't have to be in New Orleans.